I (20M) had this classmate (21F) who pursued me harder than anyone ever has.
She'd walk inches too close, find excuses to graze my hands, make sure I ate properly, and send flirty texts that left zero doubt about her interest. It felt real.
Here's the thing,she's from a noticeably wealthier background. I'm not. I carry myself well, dress decently, so most people assume I come from money too. But I don't.
Out of nowhere, she started asking me to teach her subjects. We did online sessions at first, but then she invited me to her home. I told her she lives pretty far from my place, and she casually replied:
"You can just come in your car."
I told her the truth: I don't own one. And commuting via public transport all the way to her area would be exhausting for me.
From that exact moment? Complete radio silence. She avoids eye contact in class, barely responds to texts, and acts like I'm invisible.
It's honestly ridiculous. I don't have a rich dad,I don't even have a dad. I'm building everything from nothing, on my own. And I know I dodged a bullet.
But sometimes, late at night, I still miss her a little. And that sucks even more.
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Well if thats the reason in combination to her response (not even being decent to have a breakup conversation) after consider it a bullet dodged.
na man she saved you from herself. Keep your head up my sexy king 👑
Yeah, it'll be a pretty common one, we unfortunately made owning a giant expensive metal liability that makes cities worse an expected norm.
I’m very happy about my giant expensive metal liability
Expensive? My cheap 255k-mile beater is working just fine, thank you.
Not everyone lives in a city
🙄 get real- you need a car. I bought my first car at 19. Get the fuck off Reddit and do something with your life
When someone shows you who they really are believe them
You got game if you attracted her in the first place. Wait until the next one. Forget her.
Get a car bro. Doesn’t have to look great, just sum that runs decent, keep the inside clean. Shit I’ve had a couple Hondas I paid 1000/1500$ drove for a year and got another
She can have preferences just like how you have preferences. They might not make sense but so do many other preferences. She just wasn’t the one for you.
Why do you think it’s about the car and not what you said about being unwilling to take the bus? You provided no good options so yeah radio silence is what comes next. Next time you need to offer a solution.
lol this read's like the girl's sock puppet account 😂 weak troll attempt
+5-10 years down the line, you will succeed in your own ways and path
Women are so inundated with an abundance of options that they look for any inconsequential reason to curve someone so that they can move onto their next perceived "better option"
The abundance mindset of the 20s, that is actually a trap for their future
Never stop searching the right girl
The horrors of the US One thing to all this : I'd be fearing she put a bad word about you to other girls They can be quite eager to shame one another for such details, particularly when one of them rejected a guy (which calls to the opposite effect, i.e. you would be socially approved by them, and some of them would try with you)
Bullet dodged. Although I would understand if she just didn't want a relationship with someone who couldn't even come to her house because they thought it was too far away for public transport. Because how would that work? But the fact that she completely ghosted you when she first had a crush on you says enough. Unless she thought you weren't interested in her and she felt embarrassed.