M22, suffered from anorexia from 16.5 to 18.5 which fucked up the tail end of my development. Have fought so hard to come back from my illness but this penis thing is making me so depressed and frankly suicidal. I have lost all motivation in life as when I was 16.5 I genuinely thought I was “changing my body for the better” and getting healthy because I was overweight. Anyway I really fucked up and now I can’t get a girl and my life is fucked forever. Not really asking for advice because I think I’m going to commit suicide pretty soon because I can’t take this regret anymore and my life anymore but yeah, that’s it.
Hey so, unrelated but like, unless you were a VERY late bloomer, i think penis development is like >95% done by age 16 (from the charts online), so I dont think you lost much at all. do you have your labs to show your pubertal progress at around the anorexia time?
Lesbians can have great sex from what I hear and they don't even have a penis.
Be happy with whatever you have. Confidence is going to carry you. I was pretty fat for most of my life so obviously it made things not look too intimidating but once I knew someone was into this fat mess, I would become a different more confident person when naked. Now I'm just a little chubby and luckily I always get compliments about the guy down stairs and since I never cared anyway. I usually get complimented about everything but sometimes, certain women just don't respond to my moves. I just shake it off and move on like anything else in life.
Change what you can. Foreplay is always better first anyways, if you're a magician with your fingers and tongue I doubt most women will care about your dick size. Don't highlight this one part of yourself and spiral into it, work on other qualities about your self that you and others will like.
This! OP give yourself grace . Life is has highs and lows. Some are brutal but don't let that stop you from embracing the great things about yourself. You are way more than a Single organ and honestly I was always more attracted to my partner and now husbands personality , smile , emotions etc before we even got to that point in a physical relationship. Sex should be an emotional and intimate expression of love and consists of more then just jamming parts together. You are going to be the perfect match for some one out there.
I feel this. It's so much more nuanced than people acknowledge/understand. There are so many things I hate about myself and this is one of them.
We are our own worst cities, that's a cliche saying but it's true. But trust me when I say there are plenty of people that don't care about penis size or how it looks. I can speak from experience as a gay male, I don't judge someone for their size. Everyone is unique and they are so much more than their penis. I know it's hard but try to stay strong and know there are people that will love you for you.