Hey everyone, I’m posting in this subreddit because I genuinely don’t know who to turn to anymore. I’m 21F and I’m thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend 23M, because I’m not sure if I can bear the the responsibility of his entire wellbeing anymore. We’re high school sweethearts, he’s a really nice person but he’s very very dependent on me. We already live together because I wanted to get away from my previous living situation. I’ve tried to talk to him so many times, he always tells me he’s trying and that it’s not his fault nobody ever taught him how to live independently. I’m sorry if I’m rambling or if didn’t give enough details, I’m just really conflicted on what to do because I really don’t wanna hurt him. Thank you to everyone in advance, any advice or input of people that were in similar situations would help. Do you guys think it would be selfish to break up even if I know it would hurt him a lot?
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that sounds like a really heavy weight to carry especially when you’re so young. honestly you have to look out for your own happiness too, it’s not selfish to want a partner who can stand on their own two feet. hope things get easier for you soon!
Thank you a lot, I really appreciate the advice!!