i was just reminded of the time i threw a halloween party, invited maybe a handful of people, and nobody showed up.
it was my first time ever trying to throw a party. i was so hyped. made a playlist. cleaned my entire house. decorated the house halloween themed. made fun spooky punch. bought multiple pizzas and chips and drinks. i had posted about it on my personal facebook and had at least 5 or 6 people comment that they were interested. that was good enough for me!
i swear to god it was just like the movies. the night quickly approached, everything was ready, and i of course was extremely nervous but staying hopeful. i texted those that had commented on my post about when and where. i received a few responses, a few never answered. it was approaching midnight. and absolutely nobody had showed up. not a single body in the house besides my boyfriends and mine.
come 12:30, two of my very distant friends from highschool showed up. as they walked inside, i told them that nobody came. they laughed nervously and i asked them if they wanted anything. we sat on my couch listening to music and ate two bags of chips between the four of us. after awhile they went home. i cried myself to sleep that night and i never spoke of it ever again.
i never had very many friends in highschool and looking back i feel stupid for trying something like this. i’m the type to ruminate and dwell on things that have embarrassed me, so i thought maybe putting it out there would help relieve some of that residual embarrassment.
I’m sorry that was your experience. I’ve been there before and it tough. Hopefully things have changed for you as time has gone on and you have a better group of reliable friends in your life.
unfortunately i have even less friends now, a smaller living space, and less financial freedom to do things like this again. definitely was a first and last type of thing. 🤣
It was your first time throwing a party. Are most people good at anything the first time they do it? Expecting to get things right the first time you do it isn't realistic. Things take practice, familiarity, etc. If you're an anxious thinker, you can think about ways that you could have done better instead of dwelling on things that went wrong. Speaking to people directly to invite them. Confirming with people as the date goes closer, letting people know it's open invite and they can bring their other friends. Just in general, do a positive post review instead of a negative one. Or just vent, that's fine too. Sometimes people just need to say something outloud to process it and that's ok
yeah if i ever attempt to have another one (highly likely that that won’t happen LMFAO) i would probably be a bit more thorough about inviting people and confirming with them as the days go on. these days im too old, too anxiety ridden, and way too antisocial to even attempt another party. thank you for your advice and your response!!