So, some family members died in the last months, the last one being this week, I’m kinda depressed and in a bad mood. I was talking with my boyfriend some days ago and he wasn’t being that serious, not to blame him, since I am the one that doesn’t communicate well. He goes and says “you sound like my grandma”, not in a bad way, I would even say a cute one, he couldn’t even finish what he was saying, and my grumpy ass goes with “dead?”. Now he’s hella mad with me and I don’t know what to do 🫠 I fear he wants to break up with me. My humor is fucking dark by default, but, idk, the grieve worsened it. We had serious talks after that, but it’s so awkward still. Help please :(
TL;DR: “you sound like my grandma”, “dead?”, now relationship is in danger.
LOL he started it. he made a dismissive agressive comment and didnt expect ud fight back? The relationship is in more danger than this one comment. Either get some couples therapy or figure out how to fight better or leave, ull just keep hurting each other.
Did you read the post they literally said he didn't say it in a bad way
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Just apologize and remind him you weren’t at your best then. We all get stressed and eventually say stuff to hurt our loved ones— that’s life, humans aren’t perfect. If this is all it takes to end the relationship, there were other problems already
that’s a risky move, hope it didn’t backfire too hard
Apologize and talk it out, humor can be tricky but he needs to know you didn't mean it that way.
You need help and reassurance and just someone to talk to without being judged. I think dark humor it’s a nice way to talk about the stuff, I mean, one way or another you should say it out loud, but if he gives you anxiety and makes you feel bad about your losses (making everything about himself) mmmh idk girl, tryna look a for a female friendship 💘 always helps and softens, my dm is open 👋🏻
I laughed 🤷🏼♀️ but then.. I have a shirt with a picture of an Ouija board that says “wait till my dad hears about this” 😅