Do you have mom friends whom you feel a bit judged by?

new mama

just looking for support really. I have been a bit sensitive pp and am in general. I just feel sad and judged at times by a friend. choices we have made or maybe things we haven’t gotten to yet I just hear it in the text. ”How’s xyz coming along? oh you haven’t done that yet? that’s really dangerous. oh you have to feed to sleep?“ the questions make me feel like she’s sizing me up. I understand the concern but we all know how much it is being a mom. why can’t other moms be more gracious and patient? why with the judgement? maybe I’m just reading it wrong.

I also get confused because we talk a good amount on the phone but then in person with others I feel a bit like she’s being distant and talking about me. how do you go about friendships like these?