Because its sensual and intimate. Same reason we might give them a massage or a foot rub.
Please, please do not take this the wrong way. I am genuinely curious and I'm trying to understand this. And I don't mean to offend anyone or imply that asexual ppl who do this aren't asexual at all, but I'm simply curious. Whenever I've seen an asexual share their horrible experience about sex, I always wonder if it isn't... SA? If they don't like the sex and are pushing themselves to it to please their partner, that should be considered SA, right?
Because its sensual and intimate. Same reason we might give them a massage or a foot rub.
Not all ace people dislike sex. Being ace is about a lack of sexual attraction, not how we feel about participating in the act itself.
Some asexual like sex, even desire to have it. Others you had just to feel close with their partners, or to feel good with a person they trust. And then yes, some do it to please a partner—hopefully entirely consensually. Not everyone hates sex.
Asexuality is a spectrum and is different for each individual. While some ace people are sex aversive some others may like sex even tho they don't feel sexual attraction. They may also be demisexual or greysexual and experiment sexual attraction on rare occasions or with very specific individuals.
Because asexuals choose to compromise sometimes, especially out of love. People would do a lot for love.
The choice is to have sex or be alone. I choose to be alone now but for many years I was too afraid to be on my own so I had sex to maintain my relationship.
Because it kept a roof over my head
Not all asexuals hate sex stuff It's a lack of attraction, not libido. Some ace people have sex for fun/regularly
I think it's a nuanced sometimes yes sometimes no sometimes it's complicated thing. So, on the one hand, I think there are situations where aces actively want to not have sex, but feel pressured to do so anyway - sometimes by a partner, but also often by society and family and peer pressure more broadly, even if the partner does nothing wrong. The former could be considered sexual coercion or even sexual assault, of the "nagging until your partner emotionally surrenders" kind, but we as a society aren't as well equipped to handle the latter. There can certainly be a feeling of violation or long lasting trauma there, much like with more typical sexual assault, but there's no directly identifiable perpetrator - you can't take "years of social expectations and cultural pressures" to court and charge it with assault. So it doesn't really fit into our ideas of sexual assault or our methods for handling things that we label as such. There is an idea called the "felt sense model of consent" that is one approach to try and think about situations like that, where the feelings of the subject are emphasized over the actions (good or bad) of the partner, but that one also varies in whether people find it useful or not. That said, it's important to understand that you can't assume that all aces experience sex as a violation. For some people, it's not that they actively don't want sex, they just don't particularly want it (at least without other incentices present). So they may not see it as a big deal, and may see it as just something you do to help maintain a relationship, like how you do chores to help maintain a house. Some people may also be perfectly comfortable using sex for transactional purposes - for money (as in sex work), or for attention or validation or for orgasm or even to secure a romantic relationship. Now, I think there is room for debate about whether a transactional approach where sex is something you strategically trade for a more desirable partner or more relationship security is a healthy approach to relationships, and whether it is possible to maintain long term without breaking or veering into something that does become more violating over time, but I think that is a separate question where "sexual assault" or "consent" are not the applicable frameworks.
because they want to?