This is …not relatable.
I’m surprised so many people already “have a photographer”
That is often the case with fiction.
Какое-то время назад один мой друг-фотограф написал многим своим знакомым и предложил бесплатную фотосессию на их выбор. Все вежливо ответили, что им ничего не нужно, но одна знакомая дошла до крайности и наорала на него: «У меня уже есть фотограф! Обращаться к другому — это измена! Больше никогда не пиши мне и не предлагай бесплатные фотосессии!» Вчера вечером мы с ним обсуждали Комик-Кон, на котором собираемся встретиться на следующих выходных, и я очень жду этой встречи, так как как раз приезжаю в его штат.
И тут он рассказывает, что та самая женщина на днях написала ему с просьбой о помощи. Оказывается, её постоянный фотограф недоступен в нужную ей дату — он случайно записал её на день, когда она уезжает из штата (о чём сама же и забыла), и сказал, что если ей так горит провести съёмку, пусть ищет кого-то другого. Эта барышня спросила у друга, свободен ли он в следующую пятницу и субботу для фотосессии, но он ответил: «Я оба дня буду на Комик-Коне и ничем не могу помочь. Да и в целом не могу, ведь ты мне прямым текстом заявила, что не работаешь с другими фотографами, потому что считаешь это, как ты выразилась, "изменой своему фотографу"». На что эта особа выдаёт: «Не-не-не, это не измена, если у меня есть разрешение обратиться к другому фотографу, а оно у меня есть».
Мой друг ответил: «Сорян, совместные фото со звёздами уже забронированы и оплачены, крайний срок возврата прошёл, билет на интересную мне панель невозвратный, к тому же моя младшая племянница впервые идёт на Комик-Кон вместе со мной, её мамой и старшей сестрой — мы будем посвящать её в гик-культуру». Тогда эта женщина потребовала, чтобы он бросил все свои планы, заявив, что он обязан сдержать «обещание», данное несколько месяцев назад. Он ответил: «Обещание? Ну уж нет, ты отклонила моё предложение и сама всё сказала. Хватит вести себя так, будто ты имеешь право распоряжаться моим временем, которое я отдал семье, особенно племянницам, которых не видел несколько месяцев». Она продолжила закатывать истерику, но он больше ничего ей не ответил.
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This is …not relatable.
I’m surprised so many people already “have a photographer”
That is often the case with fiction.
tell him to ignore and block her. She’s all drama all the time and she’ll hate his pics and demand- something. That’s who she is
nothing good comes from doing favors for people who already showed they're impossible to please.
Too much explaining. No is a complete sentence
Exactly. People exhaust themselves explaining things to these these nitwits.
Or he can just say: Sure, I'll be there LOL
And technology is a wonderful thing that lets you block people!
Too much explaining because story is complete fiction.
In this case, "after how you treated me the answer is no and will always be no. I do not work with the likes of you."
Wow, you would even bother replying? I would just block right away. People that start like that are a lost cause.
"Fuck off!" is only a little bit longer, but so much more satisfying.
I had to learn that over many more years.
So is, "Get fucked, Karen". It's just not as succinct, but it is more fun.
Sometimes you go deeper not because you feel the need to justify it but to make sure they leave you the fuck alone.
No is a declarative statement not a full sentence because there is no subject or verb
So is fuck off
NTA. Entitled people are exhausting. You offered your services to her and she screamed you down. Now, she needs you to be available on demand. Just block her,and be on your way to Comic Con.
Exactly. Kudos to OP’s friend for standing his ground.
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She's insane! Avoid like the plague.
He should respond With gales of scornful laughter. Tell him to tell the story to a group of people so they'll all laugh on speaker phone with him.
Send her a rock to kick.
Send her a whole bag of gravel.
Yeah that was too much explaining. Should’ve just said no and ended it at that. Ur friend didn’t owe that woman any more than one word.
Why did your friend over explain his family circumstances to this rude psycho? I would not even talk to her after the first outburst.
I can't say whether or not this applies to OP's friend, but there are plenty of people who had emotionally abusive, entitled parents and were raised in such a manner that they were made to feel they have to justify every decision a hundred times over, a simple "no" would never be accepted.
That is the worst written fictional story I've read all week.
Explaining to people like that is self-defeating, they just see it as a 'negotiation'. The only explanation she'd get from me would be "f#ck off".
the entitlement is off the charts, some people think their needs come before everyone else's
Just say no. You already have plans. The END! Her demanding, entitled, asshole attitude might also be why her "existing" photographer is suddenly busy and unavailable. No one could satisfy this woman or make her happy. Dodge this bullet.
Seriously? Why are you even asking reddit this question? "Fck off!" is the correct reply to this Karen. "No" is more polite, but I prefer the former given the tone of their first convo.
Sorry, I don't have availability for your dates.
I’d have left it at “I have plans that weekend.” That, and the whole “you were rude to me before” thing. And if she asked “what plans, what are you doing?” the answer would be “none of your business, only thing you need to know is that it won’t be taking your pictures.”
I used to explain my answers to my (now ex) husband and it drove him nuts. Usually a yes or no was enough. I often didn’t realize that I was adding extra words to yes or no until I was a few sentences in. I’m learning to take a moment and think if my yes or no needs clarification. Not for him, though. I don’t see him any longer.
The block button is a free action
Holy crap! The entitlement continues to march on!
“…the photographer she relies on told her they aren’t going to be available…” Because they got tired of her entitlement
A simple no would have sufficed. NTA.
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"No, I will not help you cheat on your photographer."
That would really hit home for her I think. And made me laugh🤣
No! is a complete sentence. What a terrible person that entitled lady is.
Explaining why just provides fodder to argue. I always go with just No. When I am asked for an explanation, I ask why they want to know. Usually I get a nevermind, because it's not convenient to say you want an explanation so they can argue you into changing your mind.
A simple "No" would have been all that was needed. I'd have ghosted her after her initial response. It was stupid and unnecessary.
What an awful person. Glad you didn’t cave to her demands.
A simple no I’m not available , no I’ll be out of town would have been enough.
There's no need to even respond. You can't argue with crazy.
"I'm already busy the entire day and will not be canceling anything. Good luck finding someone else."
This is one of his "friends"? He needs to cut off contact with her since she was so ungrateful in the first place, and then so little regard for his time and already sceduled plans. Good on him for speaking up for himself and not letting her get away with it.
Say *thank you for the opportunity* and no show. 😂
Sure 🙄
the entitlement is unreal, she really thought he’d drop plans just like that
Why did your friend feel it necessary to tell her so much personal information that’s none of her business? Just say no, it doesn’t need to be justified.
I read the title as, "Entitled woman demands my friend drop his pants". Thanks for laugh. 🤣
I did too. Thanks to 5th grade speed reading machine. I hated that thing.
I like just the facts: “Sucks to be you.”
Read it as "Entitled woman demands my friend drop his pants"
Lol…why the hell explaining the becauses? Just say no?
she really thinks he should drop plans for her? that's wild entitlement right there
For future reference to ANYONE posting on Reddit, " You can help your Uncle Jack, off his horse. Or you can help your uncle jack off his horse" and THIS boys and Girls, is WHY PUNCTUATION MATTERS
Both are perfectly acceptable on Reddit...
No good deed goes unpunished
Too many words. “Fuck no.”