Let your husband communicate it if you do decide to make changes. My inlaws come over every single weekend, sometimes they expect to come over in the evenings during the week too. They stay for 1.5 hour usually and they barely interact with my husband or me. Like his dad sometimes doesn't even say hello or goodbye to us. They never ever offer to help or so much as bring their dirty coffee cups to the sink. I grew up in an abusive household with no extended family so not used to this much visits. Outside of friends we don't have a village and it bugs me so much they expect to come over every week and expect to be "waited on hand and foot" as my MIL demands. I put up with it for my husband's sake but it bugggs me ha.
Yea like I said i wasnt raised with extended family , but weekly seems excessive to me. I just want to be able to live my life with my little family the way we always have..I do want a village but I still think weekly is excessive.. I'm just not used to it. Do you think it will fizzle?. Oh no, you should not be waiting on your MIL hand and foot 😭 can you move visits to THEIR house ? Then when baby gets fussy you can use it as an excuse to leave *and* you won't be waiting on her hand and foot? I feel bad.. I really do love my in laws.